This post is #24 of 64 hexagrams in a series of posts about the I Ching, an ancient Taoist text that has many ties to the Tao Te Ching. For those of you new to this series, you may want to start by reading my post called “What is a Hexagram?” that helps to explain more about the general idea of the I Ching.
No matter how far you may roam, you will always come back to your center.
In this hexagram, there is one yang line at the bottom of a heap of yin lines. In the previous hexagram, it was flipped and the yang line was at the top and it spelled trouble. But this time, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things are starting to turn around and it feels good.
The study of Taoism reminds us to consider the waves of life. If you live a chaotic life, you will stray far from your center before returning. It’s like a huge wave that crashes down after going very high. The higher the wave, the bigger the crash. Sometimes it takes many crashes before one realizes that smaller waves are easier. Sometimes people never figure that out.
When I think of the return in this case, I am reminded of the breathing space like Xorin Balbes talked about in our interview for SoulSpace. We all need that pause.
Last weekend, my life got a little bit crazy. I had let things slide a bit too long with my house and I got to the point where the frustration mounted into a bit of a meltdown. Not a huge meltdown, but one that was big enough that I realized that I needed a break. So I followed Naomi Wittlin’s advice and went to my thinking spot. While there, I wanted to practice just being with my frustration. I am reading a book right now called The Conscious Parent and one of the practices in that book is to practice being with your emotional states so that you can help your children be with theirs. It was hard. I am used to running away from those types of emotional moments, not being IN them. I could see that my frustration with the state of my home was bleeding over into how I was talking with my daughter and my husband.
I am not sure that I ever got to the point where I faced my frustration and sat with it, but I did feel better for sitting there in my thinking spot for a while. I just needed a break. I needed to return.
So what about you? Tell us about a recent return you experienced in the comments below.