Reflections on Chapter 29 of the Tao Te Ching:
One who wishes to control the world
and act with force upon it
will not succeed.
The world is a sacred vessel
and cannot be controlled.
For trying to control it,
one destroys it.
For trying to hold it,
one loses it.
There is a time for leading,
and a time to follow.
There is a time to breath in,
and a time to breath out.
A time to be strong,
and a time to be weak.
A time to overcome,
and a time to fail.
The sage abandons all excess,
and rejects indulgence.
This chapter is really about control.
There is a quote by Thoreau about a butterfly…
“Happiness is like a butterfly:
the more you chase it, the more it will elude you,
but if you turn your attention to other things,
it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…”– Thoreau
If we can just let go of the things we can’t control. So many things are beyond our control. It is important to relax and notice. Our bodies are such a barometer of our lives. Our bodies tell us everything. It is constantly giving us signals. That is what our body does! We have this ability to really be able to know when we are controlling.
Control shows up as tension in the body.
Whenever you have tension, there is a gripping sensation. What are you trying to control? What are you afraid of? Fear and control manifest in a very similar way. Fear is usually a fear of “loss of control”. That is where it comes from. For example, a fear of bees (which I have). If I could control the bees and say, “OK, you are not allowed to be near me,” I would be fine. It seems to show up when I want things to be my way and they are not. I get that fear. It shows up in all sorts of ways. Sometimes it shows up as anger. Sometimes, with the bees, it shows up as freaking out. I want things to be one way and they just aren’t that way.
Everything always works out fine in the end. It always does. If you can let go and trust that, things work out beautifully and we don’t have that excess. You can feel when there is that excess. You can feel things starting to get out of control, in a sense. You feel it in your body that something is just not right and you need some help. You can ask for it.
You can ask for help in many ways.
It isn’t asking for help as a sign of weakness, it is asking for help as a sign of strength. A sign that you are strong enough in your understanding of yourself that you know when you are able to get help from others.
I sometimes think, if I was a sage, how would I behave? Sages are so respected and honored. Would they really ask for help? Well, maybe not in an “I can’t do it, can you help me do it” kind of way but I am certain that they do. If I was a sage, would I ask for help? I would. Definitely. In fact, the more I practice my spiritual path – the more connected that I am to my journey, the more comfortable I feel in asking for guidance from my higher self. This has been a big part of my personal discovery.
I have learned that there is definitely guidance out there for me.
Not only is there guidance, but there is guidance that is just itching for me to ask for help! It wants me to ask! My own specific guidance does not have a clear name yet or a clear identity. For some, it is a particular angel. For others, it is the Big Man Upstairs. For me, it is the Universe. So it’s an IT. (Perhaps more discussion on this in later posts?)
Do you ask for help? Who are your helpers? What do you think about my control conversation? Does any of this ring a bell for you? Please share your comments in the space below!
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