Reflections on Chapter 68 of the Tao Te Ching:
The skillful warrior does not get violent.
The excellent fighter does not lose her temper.
The champion does not compete.
A good manager places herself below her people.
This is known as harmonious virtue.
This is known as managing to people’s strengths.
This is known as heavenly living,
the ancient way of perfection.
I say the best manager is the one who lets me do my job.
I work in an office. My boss lives about a thousand miles away from me. He’s a good boss. He trusts me and he notices when I do good stuff. That is all you need to do as a manager. He works hard and is always ready to lend a hand if I need it. As a result, I am cool with working hard for him and our team. (My team is great, too.)
It’s really simple.
People always think they have to DO something to make things happen. Let’s just think about that for a moment. If someone asks you to do something and they think that they need to intervene, how do you feel about that? Kinda crappy, right? Like maybe they don’t trust you or something? I hate it when people stand over my shoulder. What comes across is arrogance.
OK, I am a parent. I know this one! Ha. The first chapter in the manual on taking care of children actually says to trust your kids, but we don’t listen! lol… We have ways we want them to behave and we watch them and try and help them and it really just doesn’t work. This year, my daughter is in middle school. She is doing so great. Every time I check on her to see how she is doing, I feel almost a little silly that I even check on her because she just has it handled.
So lose all the competition.
There is no need to compare ourselves to others. There are millions and millions of people out there. Everyone has talents. What are yours? When you are really confident in what your talents are, you don’t care about the competition. You just do your thing. That is the natural way.