The Study of Consistency: Part 1

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This is the first part of a series on Consistency. To read the other parts, please visit our Consistency Page. We have also have a series on HumilityAwareness , Stillness and Discipline so please check those out as well if you are interested. This series on humility is the fourth series in our Tao Te Ching Exploration Project. Throughout this project, we will be discussing some of the basic principles brought up throughout the Tao Te Ching. The principles we will cover are Awareness, Stillness, Discipline, Humility, Flexibility, Consistency, Connection, Service and Leadership. I am sure that there are many other principles that have been discussed throughout the text, but these are the nine topics that I am choosing to focus on over the next several months. I relate to each principle by focusing our attention on each of the nine chakras. This nine chakra model is based on the Q’ero Shamans’ chakra system that is explained in depth in Dr. Alberto Villoldo’s book, Shaman, Healer, Sage.

In this system, the chakras extend outside of our human form, which allow us to recognize our greater aspects of being. With nine chakras and nine disciplines, we will end up with 81 essays on living with the Tao in mind throughout every aspect of our being. (Since there are 81 chapters in the Tao Te Ching and nine is a completion number, I felt this was a fitting tribute.)   I hope that you are enjoying the series and will continue to explore with us throughout the rest of the project.


How Consistent are You?

We are over the hump in our Tao Te Ching Exploration Project – this deep dive into nine of the basic principles of the Tao Te Ching. [Pause. Big breath.Yes.] Consistency – our FIFTH of nine principles! Oh my. Anytime a new topic comes up, my resistance comes up to meet it!

For this first chakra, we are looking at how consistency relates to security and safety.

Hmm… My first thought is that we, as a species, crave consistency. It is part of our core, our comfort. We need that level of regularity so we feel comfortable. I travel some for my day job. I learned early on that staying in the same hotel chain and staying at the same hotel for each city that I regularly visit is very helpful to me. This consistency has comforted me during a time when I don’t feel as secure.

It is important in developing this principle that you create routines around things that you want to keep in your life.  What is important to you? In creating routines around these things, you will feel safer – more comfortable.

Security comes around our basic needs: shelter, water, food, love.

Build some routines around these things. Build routines around your home. There is a great podcast I listen to called Flylady. Flylady is a good person for building cleaning routines. You can build routines around food. Are you just eating randomly or do you have some habits around eating healthy? For me, it would be building some habits around eating more slowly and enjoying the taste of my food. We probably all could use more consistency about drinking water! These are all very basic concepts, but they are the foundation of our lives.

As for love, to me this is about creating fun traditions that you do with your family.

For my little pod, Tuesday nights is family night. We are all busy with our lives with yoga and the gym and other various commitments, but on Tuesday nights nothing is planned outside the family because that is the one night we have committed to hanging out together. With my growing up family, we usually go camping in the summertime together and we spend most Thanksgivings together. These two traditions are a very important part of my life because they keep me connected since my sisters and parents are scattered all over the country.

Do you have any routines that can help to build that consistency in your life? Let us know about it in the comments below!


  1. I certainly hope you are feeling much better, Amy! I’m missed you while we were both away from blogland. I love the idea of staying at the same hotel every time you travel so you know what to expect and don’t have to think of logistics. So much of travel is in noticing new details, which could be exhausting! I hope to create new traditions at home too… thanks for the reminder. I think creating them will allow my daughter to feel more secure in the family but also in our house.

    • Thanks, Naomi. I do feel much better! 🙂

      Yes, I find that managing stress when your life is stressful is so important. One way to manage stress is to remove things that are unsettling. One thing that is unsettling for me is finding my hotel after a long day at the office. It feels relaxing to know just where to go and not to have to worry about GPS taking me there. There is something soothing about recognizing the people at the front desk too, and knowing that on certain nights they have a social hour in the lobby. I never go, but it is relaxing and homey to know that. In Kansas City in particular, I have my all-time favorite Indian restaurant. I know the owner. I eat there nearly every time because he is such a great host and treats me like family.

    • Also, Naomi – curious to hear what habits you are creating with your daughter? 🙂 I would love to know!

      • We have the usual routines around here, like dinner/bath/stories/bedtime, but I like creative rituals too. Every holiday, we bake something together. Tonight begins Rosh Hashanah, so after school today she and I are going to bake a cake. First thing each morning, I like to greet her with smiles and cuddles. At dinner each night, I like to ask her and my hubby what their favorite part of the day was. On Friday night, we have Shabbat dinner together. On road trips, we ALWAYS (to our annoyance sometimes) play I Spy and 20 Questions. I can think of lots!
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        • That is so cool, Naomi. I just saw that the other day that Rosh Hashanah was coming. My daughter is partly Jewish, due to her Dad’s family being Jewish. Although I do not practice Judaism, I have often thought that it would be nice to do a little something to honor that part of her life. It sounds like you have some beautiful traditions!

  2. Hi Amy, I love the way you very simply put some of the most important things we need to feel safe and secure. In a way people can easily understand and relate to. Thanks for sharing.
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  3. I know how important this is and, yet, it is one of my biggest challenges. I am good for a while and then I allow life to get in the way. I have found it to be helpful to make baby steps when selecting something I want to become as habitual as, say, brushing my teeth or showering in the morning. Trying to tackle too much at once never works!
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    • So true. I am seeing that you are on lesson 27 of your life lesson posts. You are definitely consistent there! As your friend, I can tell you that there are a lot of ways that you have held the bar up for me in terms of this principle so don’t be too hard on yourself!

  4. I’m sorry to hear that you have been sick Amy. I hope that you are on the mend now and feeling much better.

    I was trying to think where I’m consistent in my life. I’d have to say for almost 90 days now I have been following a food plan/program called The Plan and I have also been drinking specific amounts of water a day according to my body’s weight. This has been wonderful in the sense that it also collapsed some old habits I had around not eating at the right times or the right foods and not drinking enough water some days and even more old habits. It’s been a win/win, lost weight, feeling awesome got rid of old habits. 🙂

    You shared with us about FlyLady. I love it. I have come across her name a few times lately. I wonder if it’s a sign that I should get back on some of her wonderful tips and ideas like I had years ago.
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    • The water thing is so important, Suzanne. I have been working on that too. It is almost as if drinking water itself is an act of consciousness. We must remember, then remember again, and again… it keeps us present to our bodies and when we get dehydrated I believe that is a sign of doing too much that we lose sight of what is important.

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